*@ 7-11 near JBAP church (john the baptist) in costa mesa: he called me "buddy" so I called him the same & added "dude". Then he called me "boss" & so I repeated,with emphasis, "thank U boss"
Note: mirroring is a behavioral modification technique that helps people change their behavior by allowing them to feel how the way they treat or mistreat others makes them feel likewise. On a daily basis,clerks & cashiers (I call them all "clerks" in general) have the greatest opportunity to make us feel better or worse,and vice-versa. Clerks have little ways of remaining technically "good" while being "bad". For example,if they call u "boss",u may initially think they are treating u with respect,but it is actually an insult...a way of saying u try to "act big" but don't have any actual talents or skills or even a work ethic. Its a major insult often used especially towards white males who ethnics like to think are all "posers" (ie pretending to be intelligent,useful members of society but really are not). Other terms such as "dude","buddy","pal",even "sir" are usually also pejoratives,especially depending on the inflection. It is very rare for a clerk-worker,most of whom are "in the flesh" to truly respect others. So mirroring is the most useful tool by which to engage & hopefully transform their behavior for the better without resorting to anger (which only makes things worse). The key is to always keep smiling NO MATTER how insulting they may be in their snide way.The rule they hold u too is good behavior absolutely.
